For as long as I can remember I’ve really enjoyed giving to people. I find much joy doing things and helping people, and I absolutely love to give gifts to those around me.
Many years prior when a co-worker asked if I gave so often to people to get them to like me? I remember being completely furious with her. How dare her I thought, to even insinuate that I gave or did nice things for people, for any other reason than for altruistic reasons. The truth of the matter was she hit a nerve. When I thought about it later that day, I realized she was partially correct. I actually did enjoy giving to people, and received a great source of pleasure from doing so; however my friend was correct that I also desired people’s approval of me.
Thinking further on the subject, I recalled a number of my close friends over the years complaining that I rarely just accepted gifts and treats from my friends without much hassle. After deep reflection I realized there were a bunch of issues going on for me. One was that if I took gifts, or praise from my friends that they would come to think of me as using them. Also I felt if I took anything, I’d owe them. Of course this was and is entirely not true. My friends love me and do not expect me to give them anything in return for the gifts they give me. There is the other issue though I realize, of self-worth. For much of my life (till just recently), I did not feel worthy to receive.
The greatest lesson in all of this that I’ve learned over the past couple years, is to accept gifts from people. Whether they be friends, family or co-worker, is a great blessing to both parties, both the giver and the receiver. I’ve been utterly blessed with wonderful people in my life who love me, and now I’m fully able to accept their gifts as well as give to them. Having been able to let go of my insecurities, and give and receive wholly has significantly enriched my life, and those around me. Giving and receive completely has brought more blessings and abundance than I could have ever imagined.
Now when I obtain a gift, a thank you or praise, I accept the wonderful gracious gift, and simply say: Thank You. :-)
